...It's been a while, so it's definitely time for some Dear 16 Year Old Me letters. Up today is April from All Outta Bubble Gum:
---
{16 year old April, left}Dear 16-year-old April,
Stop dating him. Right now. I know it's difficult to be alone, but you're going to be so full of responsibilities later that you're going to pine for some of that alone time, and frankly, he's not worth it. Someone will come along later who is, but it isn't him.
Don't stop writing in your journal. You'll miss it desperately later.
Be nicer to your Mema. She didn't have to raise you but she took you in, and you really ought to at least keep your room clean and do the dishes once in awhile. Also, get ready, because some difficult times are ahead, and when it's all said and done you're going to miss her every day and have some serious regrets if you aren't careful.
Be patient with your friends. They're not perfect, and like all people they resist change. You're going to go away for the summer soon, and when you come back full of new confidence and ideas, they're not going to get it, and it's going to put them off because it's not the "you" they're used to. Give them time and don't stop dancing whenever the spirit strikes you.
Everything feels like the end of the world or it's peak moment right now. Feel it, enjoy it, really live in it... but keep in the back of your head the knowledge that it isn't everything and that someday everything will be different, so don't go off the deep end during the bad times. And don't pine for the good times when they're gone; concentrate on making new ones.
Finally, don't ever lie. Not to other people, not to yourself. Even if you think other people won't like you at your plainest and least gussied up, it's better to know right off the bat that something isn't going to work, than to invest time and emotions into it only to have it fall apart, because you're not who you said you were at the start. Be genuine, be hopeful, don't listen to the naysayers who tell you things aren't possible--even if they come from inside your own head. Don't get too cynical, but don't be completely credulous. Examine everything and look for the truth of the matter.
I hope you have fun on the way,
21-year-old April
---
Thanks for taking part April. I can really relate to this letter, especially the bit about how everything feels like the end of the world or it's peak moment. My 16 year old world was full of end of the world moments, or times when everything felt like life was the best it was ever going to be. It wasn't, of course, the world didn't end and I've had much better times in my life but my 16 year old self didn't know that!
xx



